Nimic nu-i bun ori rau Dar gandu-l face-asa // Nothing is good or bad thinking makes it so(Shakespeare)

Sa ne gandim de exemplu ca suntem la o prima intalnire. Partenerul/partenera face un gest mai nepoliticos, cum ar fi sa-si sufle nasul ca o trompeta. Nu-i asa ca va puneti intrebarea daca va mai intalniti a doua oara?
In schimb, sunteti casatorit cu partenerul/partenera de 5 ani de zile. Daca sufla nasul in felul descris mai sus, nu-i asa ca incercati sa radeti sau sa gasiti o cale sa fiti fericit cu ce s-a intamplat?
Suntem inconjurati de diverse fapte, actiuni, intamplari. Ca sunt bune sau rele depinde de noi cum le interpretam. Stiu ca depindem de cum ne simtim, de oboseala, de sentimentul de neputinta, de multele noastre ganduri, de sentimentele generate de faptele marunte de peste zi. Acestea pot fi: ca astept prea mult la metrou, ca un sofer grabit ma stropeste de sus pana jos, ca imi dau seama ca mi-am uitat telefonul mobil acasa. Toate acestea si multe altele ne pot pot face sa nu ne simtim bine, sa ne maniem, sa ne revoltam pe om, ori chiar pe Dumnezeu, spre a ne arata revoltati.
Poate daca am reusi sa ne amuzam pe multele lucruri care se intampla pentru a ne tulbura, poate ne-am simti mai bine.
Pentru ca felul cum reactionam la toate detaliile marunte din existenta de zi cu zi ne arata pe noi, cu adevarat. Daca ne suparam pe nimicuri sau daca ne bucuram pe lucruri marunte, toate acestea ne vorbesc despre noi in felul cel mai adevarat.
Nu stiu cum as putea sa fac asta. Nu stiu cum as putea sa ma amuz pe seama tuturor lucrurilor mici care ma irita zi de zi.
Dar stiu ca daca as reusi asta atunci toate relatiile si faptele pe care le am cu cei din jurul meu se vor schimba.

English version
Let’s think for example that we are on a first date. The partner makes a rude gesture, such as he blows his nose like a trumpet. Not so you ask yourself if you will meet a second time?
Instead, you are married partner of 5 years. If he blows his nose in the way described above, so you try to laugh or to find a way to be happy with what happened?
We are surrounded by various facts, actions, events. As good or bad depends on us how to interpret them. I know it depends on how we feel, fatigue, feelings of helplessness, of our many thoughts, the feelings generated by small facts of the day. These may be too much to expect the metro, the driver rushed me sprinkle top to bottom, as I realize that I forgot my mobile phone at home. All this and more can do we cannot feel good, we become angry, appalled us man, or even God to show us outraged.
Perhaps if we manage to entertain us many things that happen to disturb us, can we feel better.
Because how we react to all the small details of everyday existence shows us, really. If the little things upset us or if we enjoy the little things, all they talk about us in the truest way.
I do not know how I could do that. I do not know how I could entertain myself on behalf of all the small things that irritate me every day.
But I know that if I succeed then all the relationships and facts that I have with those around me will change.